Friday, December 8, 2017

Proceed With Caution, Please...

So, yeah, there are a lot of males who have behaved badly and are being called to the carpet for their past actions. Hats off to the women who have had the courage to step forward and display their inner turmoil in such a public way. Remarkable courage - especially since, as always, their motives, recollection of the events or their level of participation (whatever the heck that means) are all questioned. Yeah, still amazed that the "Well, what did SHE do to bring on such behavior?" is almost always the default - and also that it takes an average of four accusers before folks seem to be at least willing to accept the idea that the accused may, in fact, be a flaming bag of puss who fooled us all (one woman telling her story just never seems to be enough, strangely.)

But I’m also amazed that after all the sexual and workplace harassment awareness and legislation the Clarence Thomas confirmation hearings ignited way back in the early 90s we seem to be right back where we were before Anita Hill testified. Seriously, what is the deal with that? I thought we DID this already…

And what is up with assuming some men are just too nice, or too good at what they do, or too famous to have done what they are accused of? Please at least be open to the idea that even good people who have done tons for the community at large can - and do - treat folks very badly. The two are not mutually exclusive.

Also - a gentle reminder: The idea of inappropriate touching, advances, propositions, vocalized expectations of sexual "favors" and reduction of women to mere body parts happens. All. The. Time. Many, many women have and do experience it, and most of us keep quiet so we don't have to also experience victim blaming and being told to forget/ignore it when we do voice it to higher-ups. That being said, every woman's "This is what happened to me" story - and the "I don't believe her/them" comments - are potentially triggers for lots of people. 

There is a lot of emotional distress happening right now as a result of the headlines, make no mistake about it. Please don't discount that when you wade in to express your opinion. Women are watching. More importantly, young women - and young men - are watching, too. How we treat this thing collectively and individually will tell them a lot about how they are expected to behave.

This is a systemic issue that won't go away with one, five, 10 or even 100 firings or forced resignations. It's bigger than that, and until we recognize that, come correct and try to address all the contributing factors (the biggest of which, I firmly believe, is rape culture in this here land of the free), the piece-meal efforts will add up to much of anything, and, as we're starting to witness, women will be blamed for calling out other folks' favorite politician, news reporter or entertainment company CE

Say it with me now: IT. IS. NOT. HER. FAULT. IT'S. HIS. Dismissing it away or referring to it as just a fluke, a "minor" transgression, or her word against his (and he said he didn't do it!) just ain't cool. So stop that. Like, yesterday.

Words are powerful. Please use them accordingly.

Tuesday, October 31, 2017

We're Baaaaaack!

Toss the confetti - Tri-County Woman Magazine is back!

For the last several months, we've been diligently planning editorial, re-designing the website, connecting with writers and gathering all the things we needed to get this show on the road again. Just finished putting the finishing touches on the site and, quite frankly, it feels like we've given birth!

Tri-County Woman Magazine was always designed to be a place to celebrate women who live, work and play in and around Orange, Ulster and Duchess Counties. The folks who do the heavy lifting - the designers, editors, writers, photographers et. al. all call the area home. The enjoyment behind putting the issues together is so intense. The work is hard, but we smile a lot, we really do!

The thing about producing a periodical is that once you meet that deadline and everything is just where you want it to be, you have to start from scratch and start building the puzzle that is a magazine again. But we rocked the heck out of it!

For now, new content will be posted every other month and our next issue is set for January 1, 2018. If you have any ideas for things you'd like us to cover, email us at and let us know. We'd love to hear from you!

Sunday, September 17, 2017

New Year, New Stuff


Tri-County Woman Magazine first came onto the scene in 2005. It was in print through 2008, becoming a web-based publication until 2010. Although the awards won for its editorial, design, web content, and calendar are still hanging in my office, it's been away for far too long.
Tri-County Woman's new social
media avatar...

But all that will change soon because we're re-launching the webzine later this fall.

Part of the impetus behind the move was that there still isn't a publication in our region that focuses on women and all the wonderful stuff we do - whether we are stay-at-home moms, recent graduates, corporate CEOs or retired professionals. Not only are we amazing, but we roar pretty loudly most times. There should be an outlet for that. Tri-County Woman is a great vehicle for just that.

We're feverishly working behind the scenes to get the visually fun but very user-friendly website up - and utilizing the expertise of area designers, graphic artists, photographers, videographers and writers for our content. We're churning it out to make it a place that women who live, work and play in the region will want to again head to for information on everything from places to go, health & wellness, parenting, relationship, upcoming event, support group and dining information.

I'll keep you updated on the progress and give you the launch date as soon as we get a little closer. I'm excited about bringing it back to you, I really am!

In the meantime, like us on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram for information
and give-aways.

We'll see you soon...

Proceed With Caution, Please...

So, yeah, there are a lot of males who have behaved badly and are being called to the carpet for their past actions. Hats off t...